Why get involved in Teams?
To grow in love of God
and each other a litte more each day aided by the mutual help and support of other similarly minded couples that gather monthly
to share a meal, pray and study. To thus better follow the One who assured us that: "I am the way, the truth, and the
life." John 14:6
Why is Teams for couples?
Because God has entrusted
you to each other through the Sacrament of Matrimony. Because when your response is in unison, it deeply affects the
quality of your love, your children, and all whom you meet.
Why with other couples?
Because as a team, there
is more strength and in a world where fidelity is no longer esteemed, meeting with others who value married life can bring
joy and hope to all. Teams of Our Lady is open to all couples that are in a marriage recognized by the Church.
Only one spouse need be Catholic.
How does a Team get started?
most often hear about Teams through those already involved, and sometimes from parish bulletins or other media. The
local Team's movement conducts regular information meetings to introduce couples to the gift of Teams, answer questions, and
place interested couples in a Team.
Do we have to share personal or intimate details about ourselves
and our marriage with the Team?
Sharing of personal information is always voluntary--this is not an "encounter group." Over time,
the couples in a Team find a level of trust building that encourages deeper sharing of
their spiritual and practical lives. It is, however, necessary for each Team member to share on
his or her progress with the practice of the endeavors--this is part of the Teams ideal of mutual help.
a commitment is a commitment to a Team and/or to the practice of the endeavors?
Serious, but not solemn. The Teams commitments are freely undertaken, "no one is forced to come,
or forced to stay... in order to attain the common end they seek, each of the participants agrees to "play the game" faithfully,
in accordance with the rules of their community."
What happens if
I don't like or get along with the people in my Team?
During the initial
or piloting stage, you will get to know the other Team members and slowly begin to put into practice the spiritual endeavors
as you learn more about the movement. A couple is free to choose not to make a formal commitment to the Team at the end of
piloting--or in fact, may choose not to complete piloting after a short initial period of commitment.
How did the Teams
of Our Lady movement start? Why haven't I heard of it before?
movement has been in this country since the 1950s, beginning in the Washington, D.C., New York and California about the same
time and spreading slowly around the country. It tends to "spread quietly"--from one couple to another. Also,
since it is a somewhat intense effort to form, pilot, and support small groups, it takes time.
What does the
Pope/Bishop/Pastor think of the Teams movement? Are the materials approved by the Church?
Is this an "orthodox" movement? Conservative? Liberal?
movement is approved by the Vatican. We have a Decree of Recognition issued by the Pontifical Council for the
Laity. The founding documents were submitted to the Vatican to obtain this approval: the
Charter, the What is a Team of Our Lady, the "early years" study materials. The Teams leadership works
to keep in touch with the bishops and family life offices of the dioceses in which Teams are active.
The couples interested
in and involved in Teams are alike in their desire to grow in married spirituality--but beyond that, they are as varied as
the people in the Catholic Church are. With its emphasis primarily on the practice of prayer, the movement
itself is neither conservative nor liberal.
Is the Teams movement
good for troubled marriages?
is a movement for solid, sacramental, growing marriages. All marriages struggle at times--but Teams is
not for "troubled" marriages. There are good programs for those couples, such as Retrouvaille.
Can children attend
the Team meetings?
Naturally, most Teams allow nursing infants, but generally,
children do not attend the monthly Team meetings. The meeting atmosphere should be free of distractions.
Arrangements for childcare are made with this in mind. Some Teams have tried various shared babysitter
arrangements. It generally does not work to have all the children in the same home as the meeting--nor
can any of the Team members do the babysitting. The Teams movement is for couples. The children benefit
from their parent's spiritual growth. Children are often invited to attend various social events of the
Team and the local movement.
Is this the same
as Christian Family Movement, or Renew, or... ?
Each of these movements
has a unique and particular way to enrich the spiritual lives of the participants. Teams is a movement
for married couples, emphasizing their sacramental spirituality, with the mutual help of a Team, and concrete, common objectives
and practices (the endeavors).
Do the individual
Teams as a group do any outreach or service in the community?
No. The Teams
of Our Lady movement does not have an apostolate as a movement--the movement itself witnesses to the possibilities of Christian
marriage and holiness, but the actual apostolates are to be undertaken by individual participants as they see fit.
The What is a Teams of Our Lady document states that "Teams of Our Lady, even though…not a movement for action…
nevertheless, a Movement of active people."
Without an apostolate,
do the Teams get very turned in on themselves? How about the movement as a whole?
The movement is structured in such a way that the larger Teams community stays in touch with the individual Team.
Each couple, then, recognizes that they are of a larger community. The movement organizes large
group events at different levels to encourage wide participation and allow Team members to meet couples in other Teams. Also,
the Teams responsibility to hospitality is intended to be practiced not only to other Teams members, but to the whole world--the
couple is to "bear effective witness of Christ's love, especially by acceptance of ecclesiastical and civic duties." (What
is a Teams of Our Lady document).
sound overwhelming...the structure sounds so rigid. Is there any flexibility?
The Endeavors are taken on one at a time during piloting. They are a challenge in just the same way that the call
to Christian holiness is a challenge. Spiritual growth is a discipline, but also a gift of grace from God.
The Endeavors leave room for individual styles of prayer and devotion.
The structure of the meetings, though it seems inflexible, allows the unique personality
of each Team to come through.
Is this an intellectual movement?
initiated (confirmed) Christians have a duty to continue to study the faith. Study need not be "intellectual" or boring. The
Teams materials focus primarily on married spirituality and so have a practical approach to be studied and lived. Many good
spiritual books are available for study that are easy to understand, inspirational, practical. Intelligent without being intellectual,
you might say.
Is this a Marian movement?
No, the Teams of our Lady, though not a Marian
movement, nevertheless do pray for and seek the special guidance and protection of Mary, Our Blessed Mother. In this
way, the members underline their conviction that there is no better guide on the path to God than "she who holds the first
place among the humble and poor of the Lord, those who confidently await and attain his salvation." (Lumen Gentium 55)
Will I be in a
Team with the same people I meet in the Information meeting?
Information meetings are given on a regular basis and people interested in Teams attend when they are able to.
The Teams are formed when enough couples are interested--and based on such factors as location, age, stage of life,