CONTROLLING OUR DESTINY

Desire directs motivation. Desire comes from the subconscious. Whatever we put in our minds is what we get back out. If we say this person makes me sick over a period of time the picture in the mind is created and finally we get the requested result. We get sick. Subconsciously the desire would be created. It is so easy to mislead our self through misdirected desire. Always try to be careful of what we say or think. As said before the mind does not know the difference from thinking or actually doing. Your mind subconsciously will react and direct you as though you had lived the thought experience. This process happens from watching TV or a movie. It happens when listening to music. The repetitious beat of the music dulls our rejection of the words of the song. Desire can therefore be created negatively or positively. Just as we watch the food we eat so must we watch out for negative thought. Junk food eaten fills your stomach, but can leave you ill. All food is the same. It fills your stomach. All emotion is the same. It fulfills the desire for emotion. Direct your emotion towards love. Love is a funnel to direct your emotions. Emotions are needed to let us feel alive. The more we learn to direct these emotions to a love attitude, the healthier and happier we become.

Most of us go through life without any goals other than the groceries and paying the rent due on the 1st of the month. So, the money that we have left over just flows through our fingers. If we make $500 monthly we get by. If we make $5000 we always just seem to get by. Because we extend our self just as far as we can. We seem to be in a race to get as many of the new gadgets as possible so we can show how well we are doing. The only thing is that if we’re all working to show each other how well we’re doing, there is no time to enjoy what you have. What really hurts worse is the fact that most everyone is worried about themselves and their problems, and seems to be disinterested in your new toys. Have you ever been at a friend’s house and he just bought a new refrigerator? He shows you proudly. Did you get half as excited about it as he was? Have you ever just bought a car and felt the pride of the new ownership? But as you drove the car home, how many people did you see that cared? As you showed your new car to the neighbor, did he get as interested in the car as you did? Where did we get this drive to buy and spend? The newness of the car wears off in a short time, but the monthly bills are still there. Was it worth five or ten minutes of showing off to the neighbor, brother, sister or parents?

How do we justify our spending? We are looking for recognition through our achievement. No one can tell how well we’re doing if we have saved a little money. They only can give recognition when they see what we have accomplished through our ownership. It’s pretty hard to drive up in a beat up looking car and show everyone your bank account of $15,000. It’s so much easier to buy the new car. Then everyone knows. But who cares besides you?

Our insecure society will always try to impress you with what they have accomplished, and you will see everything that they have. But once you become secure and stop looking for recognition in this way, you will stop spending and start growing.
There is a natural phenomenon in nature. Either the plant is growing, or it is dying. It never stands still in its growth. This happens with business and with man. We want to keep growing all the time. We don’t want to fall back.
It is hard to be happy and secure if you are plagued with bills. You have to take what comes your way. Your life moves along whatever way other people decide to use you. If your landlord is grumpy he can take it out on you. If your boss at work feels bad or wants you to do the dirty work, you catch it. You need the job and the money to pay the bills. Who do you have to intimidate or let go all these unfortunate frustrations? Yes it’s your mate. Funny, it seemed as though we were buying these things to make us happy. But we have caged our self in. As explained, we usually buy for the wrong reasons. Well, now we are in a predicament. How do we get out?

From here on, start buying what you need. Not what you want. Check your motivation for buying. Is it to impress someone (that’s not impressed anyway) or is this an item you need.
Now, let’s start controlling our own destiny. First and foremost, we want to be happy at home. We want food on the table, clothes on our back, shelter over head, and love from and for our family. This is our first obligation to make the home a happy one. All the rest that we can attain are comforts and should not interfere with your success that is the happy home. Somehow our society has success mixed up with our ability to attain comforts and entertainment. Success is keeping a happy home. Keep the happy home and through the stability of the home the comforts will come.