When we are capable of closing our eyes and visualizing an object, place, or person, we tend to come closer to that which we are visualizing. We come closer emotionally. We have formed opinions of the subject. We also have a better understanding of the subject. If I were to say "house" what comes to mind? A picture of a house comes to mind. The mind does not work in letters. It works in pictures. These pictures stimulate emotions. If I say the word "mom" a picture of mother comes to mind and what mother means to you. If I say the word "you", what comes to mind? If I say the word "I" what comes to mind? Is there an empty void? For most people there is an empty void. Even if you try to concentrate on a visualization of yourself, most people still can't visualize a picture of themselves. What we are saying then is that if we can visualize the house, if we can visualize mother, we have come close with thought, emotion and understanding to what we have visualized.

If we have created pictures in the mind, in creating these pictures we have created opinions. If there is no picture then there is no opinion. If I have no clear visualization of myself I have not looked at myself and I have no opinion of myself. So I can not really know myself, I can not accept myself and know what I want because I have no opinion of myself. How can I control my life? How can I direct myself to happiness or success if I don't know what truly makes me happy. What does success mean to me? To the wino a successful day is obtaining a bottle of wine, getting drunk and falling asleep. To the tycoon closing a million-dollar sale is a successful day. If you have no opinion of yourself how can you tell what a successful day is for you? You can't. This course helps you understand yourself. Read it carefully and slowly and you will attain your highest goals.

Learn each one of these lessons before using the third mind

                     LEARN HOW TO BE HAPPY CONTROL YOUR LIFE

Happiness comes with contentment. Yes, I know this statement is a very simple one. What is it that we miss here? Why don’t we seem to be able to find contentment? Have you ever awoken in the morning feeling happy and content, but by noon you feel trapped and angry? There’s not really anyone to blame. First, we must understand how easy it is to get caught in someone else’s problems, ideals, goals, dreams and wants. To be truly content we will have to sort out our real goals. We have heard from many that we should have a goal. This is true, but we should have our own goal. Not someone else’s. What is it that you really want? Isn’t it just recognition, to be liked, respected, loved and accepted? Are not most of our goals directed in these areas? Does having a new house give you love from your friends? No? Then the house must be for physical comfort. Yes, it is good to be physically comfortable, but real contentment and happiness come from people, not things. Only people can give you recognition, love, and respect. After we have this, the comforts will come, and you will have plenty. You will have recognition for yourself, not recognition for your things. You can lose your things and still have recognition, love and respect. But if you have recognition only because of your wealth, if you lost your wealth, you would have nothing.

How do we get recognition, love and respect? It is easy. We have to listen. In conversation, we usually only wait our turn to talk and don’t listen to what the other person is saying. By doing this we miss how the other person really feels or thinks. Give the other person your attention and genuine interest. Practice this and they will really listen to you. Repeat in your own words what the other person has just pointed out. In this way, he knows you were listening. This shows him that he is worthy of your interest, and also gives him a chance to hear his own idea from someone else. If it is a good idea, it will probably sound good to him. If it is not a good idea, it will probably sound ridiculous to him. In either way you have helped him understand himself, lean forward with interest. Look at the person talking. Push aside all other thoughts. Focus your attention on the person speaking. Not only on what is being said, but what does he really mean? If you do not understand, tell him that you don’t understand. Then listen very closely as he explains again. This shows him how interested you really are. Listening is a key to awareness. Be honest and sincere. These two qualities are transmitted to your friends through tone of voice, body movement and facial expression. They might not understand consciously why they don’t trust you if you’re not honest but sub consciously they will reject you and you will not be accepted.

Practice talking aloud in front of a mirror. Feel the honesty radiating. Listen to the tone of your voice. Make it pleasant to your ear. Watch your facial expression - smiling lips without smiling eyes - the opposite are a dead giveaway for the phony. Learn from what you see in the mirror. Practice daily until you become comfortable with the tone of your voice and your body posture. Practice talking aloud whenever you get the chance. You will become more and more relaxed with your voice. The body and mind function more perfectly when relaxed and calm.

Knowing and not using is like not knowing.

Practice Listening.

Practice speaking in the mirror.

Practice talking aloud.

Practice these things until they are comfortable to you. Don’t go any farther with your lesson until this becomes automatic. Each thing we learn, we want to learn so well that it becomes a habit. Just like driving an auto, in a time Of crisis (such as having to slam on the brakes), if you had to stop and think, it would be too late. When you have practiced driving long enough, driving becomes automatic. You don’t have to think - you just react.